While working as a doctor in Child and adolescent mental health I came across a substantial number of families and children faced with challenges around behaviour problems. Many of these parents struggled to cope with their child. Some could not understand the actual problem with their own child. Other children on the other hand were going through a lot of turmoil which was understandable considering the phase of lives they were in.

Educating parents, students, social workers, teachers, and other allied professionals was one of the most important steps in managing problems associated with children. While imparting such education, I realised there were hardly any websites amalgamating mental health issues with behavioural problems. There has also been very little in terms of discussing normal behaviour since we focus more on what is abnormal.

The aim of this site is to help parents, teachers, students and other childcare professionals to understand a child’s unacceptable behaviour patterns, why he does so, and what can make it stop.

Lot of us would wish that we received a manual to bring up our children when they are born. Unfortunately nature does not provide us with such luxuries. We as parents have to strive hard and keep on learning to make our experience as a parent interesting and healthy for our children at the same time. Most of us learn as we go, influenced by the way we were brought up or by what we have learned from others. Being a parent is one of the most important and difficult things you can do as well as one of the most rewarding. To raise a child is an enormous responsibility which we sometimes take for granted.

Parenting styles vary from country to country and between cultures. Though, the final aim of parenting is the same, we all want our children to turn into healthy, happy, well adjusted, successful, honest, caring, responsible adults who will be respectful of others feelings and situations, be able to get along with others and be able to cope with difficulties. Parenting is an important part of loving and caring for your child. Good parenting is about providing a warm, secure home life, helping your child to learn the rules of life and to develop good self-esteem.

The way we manage this responsibility depends a lot on our attitude. We all go through a range of emotions, which are all normal, and yet which can make us feel like we are on a roller coaster ride. One may feel love and joy at times and experience fear and fright at other times. Such emotions can range from being very strong to passing thoughts. If you are going through or have been through such feelings, you are not alone. Almost every parent goes through such experiences.

Sometimes we feel that we are not being appreciated by our own children or even by our partners. These feelings can leave a parent feeling guilty, angry, frustrated or even tired. It is important to remember that numerous studies have shown that being a good enough parent is as good as trying to be a perfect parent. Children from such groups were compared and it was found out that they fared equally well in both arms of the study.

This website is not about telling what you should do as a parent. I think no one can teach that. This website is about providing you with information. Information that will help you decide how best you can manage your own child. Every child is different, every household is different and every parent is different. Hence we cannot have any set rules of creating good children.

In this website I have referred a child as ‘he’. The word does not refer to male children only; it invariably refers to female children as well. In some instances I have mentioned children in general and not a particular child to avoid labelling.

To start off I would like to give you some basic tips for good parenting. I have explained these tips more in detail in various sections in the website.

Have faith in your abilities as a parent
Acknowledge your feelings
Keep your mind open to learn more
Keep yourself informed of the changes in the ‘world of children’
Talk to yourself or someone if you are feeling unsure of things
Reward yourself whenever you see yourself achieving any goal, however small
Accept your limitations as a human being; do not try to be perfect. Forgive yourself for mistakes that you feel you have made as a parent and move on
Every family has their won set of value systems; do not try to follow someone else’s
Take care of your other relationships, especially the one with your partner
Remember that you are not the only one who is or has been facing problems with children. There are billions of parents like you in the same boat
Have reasonable expectations from your child
Be consistent and stick to your rules. It helps if you and your child know the rules for particular situations before they happen
Praise your child when he has done something well and you are pleased with him. You can show your appreciation by a hug, a kiss or simply by telling him how good he is. This should be done immediately after your child has done something good
Sit down with your child and talk to them about good behaviour. You might be surprised about how much you both agree on
Be calm and clear with your statements. For example ‘please switch off the TV’, ‘its bedtime’,or ‘please put your toys away’ tells a child exactly what you expect them to do. Simply telling him to ‘be good’ does not. For your child to obey you he must understand you.

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